I ask who, what, how, determines the definition of "being enough."
Does anyone have a right to do that? Have you ever felt excluded by a group that you identify with?
I hope you click over, and tell me your feelings on others deciding whether or not you are enough of a something to belong.
Thank you, as always, for taking the time to learn more about the woman who blogs here.
I appreciate it so very much.
I can't speak for being Latina enough, however... I can speak for being wife enough, mom enough, or grandmother enough, even blogger enough. I could go on, but I'm sure you know what I mean. I don't socialize with enough people for them to personally make me feel lacking, however... I'm my own worst critic and never feel good enough to meet my own quality standards.
ReplyDeleteI'm a half-and-half, and I felt the sting when I was going to school. Whites would make fun of my olive skin, and my greek friends called me little white boy. I couldn't claim either side, because I wasn't "enough" but it taught me a good lesson about looking beyond skin color.
ReplyDeleteNow I live in a part of the country that is 96% white and mildly racist. It drives me nuts...
Something I forgot to add over at TikiTiki:
ReplyDeleteI am a "biker". Tats and piercings. I was born illegitimately. I grew up in a tavern.
I didn't used to fit ANYWHERE in the "real" world, whether it was in school, or in the role of mother or businesswoman or what-have-you.
I squished and squeezed and made my own fit - I am who I am and what I am and I try to be the best person I can.
My thoughts are with ANYONE who doesn't think they fit... be good to yourself and surround yourself with people who know your worth and believe in you.
I can't speak to Latinaness, but I can relate to what you wrote about belonging. I don't know anyone that doesn't want to be heard and accepted.
ReplyDeleteYou have this way of laying your heart on the line that I really, really admire.