The R U OK Day? organization has a motivating website that tells you everything you need to know, as well as some ideas on how to ask someone more about their life. Ideas on how to begin are here.
R U OK? Day is an international day of action that began in Australia. On the second Thursday of September (13 September 2012), the day is dedicated to inspiring all people of all backgrounds to regularly ask each other "Are you OK?"
In their words, "By raising awareness about the importance of connection and providing resources throughout the year, the R U OK? Foundation aims to prevent isolation by empowering people to support each other through life's ups and downs. By regularly reaching out to one another with open and honest conversations, we can all help build a more connected community."
Very cool.
I'm excited to initiate conversation, strengthen existing relationships, and maybe make surface acquaintances into something deeper, by asking one small question. You may give someone the courage to ask for help by asking "Are you OK?" You might stop little problems from becoming bigger, because you got involved. Help is always available and it’s important for people to know that someone cares enough to support them, even more so if they're struggling. Show you care by asking how they are.
You don’t have to be an expert to support someone going through a tough time. You just need to be able to listen to them, without judgment and take the time to follow up. Ask, listen, encourage. For ideas on where to start, how to start, and some great examples on how to ask "Are you OK?" click here. Share the list with your children.
I challenged my family, me included, to ask someone we only know on a surface level, on Thursday, September 13, "Are you OK?"
Just that one question from you on that one day, may change a life. Or, at the very least, it will bring a smile. Most people don't openly share their feelings, especially if they feel shame in their problems. The best thing we can all do is regularly talk to the people around us - regardless of whether they are at risk - because connection is good for everyone.
Here's to your chance, September 13: R U OK? Day. Ask a question that could change a life.
that is a very cool movement...we all need those check ins...and while many may just give the pat answers...there are plenty that i imagine would relish the contact...
ReplyDeleteNever heard of RU OK? Day, but I do this every day.
ReplyDeleteSomehow, I'm not surprised. XO
DeleteThis is such a simple and cool thing. It also reminded me to check in on someone today, but before I go...RU OK?
ReplyDeleteBased on my recent blog post, I asked my sister if she was ok today. Thanks for the reminder.
ReplyDeleteSuzy, I can't even imagine how your sister would block that vision out of her mind. Horrific.
DeleteWhat a cool idea! And your sons are even cooler for being willing to do that for someone they don't know very well. I'm looking at the site now for some tips.
ReplyDeleteIt's a wonderful concept, isn't it? Starting a conversation. So very cool, those Aussies.
DeleteI did. She said no. I offered an ear or an evening of free babysitting. She said okay.
ReplyDeleteAh, the magic of you.
DeleteThank YOU.
I think I needed this reminder. I was raised in a place where people were taught to mind their own business. Sometimes it's difficult for me to break free from that. So, thanks for reminding me that the wellness of others is my business.
ReplyDeleteVery nice sentiment. I will give it a whirl!
ReplyDeleteI married an Aussie. Because they are awesome as evidenced by this great movement.
ReplyDeleteAre YOU OK, my friend?
(A reader messaged me on Facebook, asking me that very question, although I'm sure she didn't know of the movement. It made my day that someone I've never met, who read my words, care about me.)
How awesome! What a great idea. One of my best friends here is Aussie. I wish I'd read this yesterday and gotten to ask her! (I'm not so OK these days, stress levels going to eleven.) Xoxoxo my friend. Missing you!
ReplyDeleteOh, so sorry to hear, Varda.
DeleteI feel just barely hanging on this week, too.
Can't wait till I transition from summer to school. It's hard for me.
And then, our mothers...so much to do.
Very cool! I only do this with people I know generally.
ReplyDeleteI took this advice and reached out to a dear friend. She has been traveling for work, and it has been pretty stressful. I am so glad that I asked and that we got a chance to really connect.
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