Monday, January 7, 2013

The Unpreparedness of No Good-bye




Grief,
the resounding echo
to one’s new reality.
Existing in time,
without part of one’s heart;

Grief,
the resounding echo
feeling, so surreal
Existing in time,
without part of one’s heart;
pain, deep, unable to feel.

Grief,
the resounding echo
tolerating days,
Existing in time
without part of one’s heart;
the unpreparedness of no good bye.





118 comments:

  1. Sending you all of the love, comfort, healing and peace I can. I'm so incredibly sorry for the pain you and your family are experiencing. You all are in my thoughts and I'll be carrying you in my heart in the days/weeks ahead.

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  2. Praying for you and your family, and sending you all my love.

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    1. Thank you, Tracie. We've been reading the comments, and it makes us feel so lifted, that all this love is going for my nephew. I want him to know, his presence counted.

      Thank you.

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  3. I love you. HOlding you close in my heart. Please know you can call me anytime. I am so very sorry.

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    1. Erin , thanks for talking to me. I'll talk to you later , and thank you.

      xo

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    1. Thank you, Erin, and thank you for talking to me. Heavy times right now, and I can only think minute by minute.

      xo

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  5. My heart hurts for you. Sending up prayers and sending out love.

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  6. Prayers for you and your family. I love you. xoxo

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  7. Prayers for all, I'm so sorry.

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  8. I am devastated for your family. The grief bounces off of this page. Praying, praying, praying for peace and something akin to understanding.

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  9. I'm so, SO very sorry. Prayers, love and healing thoughts, just like you said.

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  10. Words never seem to be enough to respond, but when grief and the anger at being denied a final goodbye hit me in November, it helped to read them.

    I am so sorry.((HUGS))

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  11. Oh, my sweet friend. I know this kind of sudden loss. Your brain can't comprehend and your heart literally breaks in two. I am praying so hard for you and your family in this time of incredible grief ad sadness.

    xoxo
    Tiffany

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    1. Rips everything out of what you got, doesn't it? THank you, friend.

      xo

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  12. I'm so very sorry. I can't imagine the pain you are all feeling. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

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  13. I am so SO SO sorry. Praying for you and sending lots of love your way.

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  14. Prayers for you and your family. So sad. So sorry.

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  15. I'm so very, very sorry, Alexandra. Love and prayers your way, and to your family. xoxo

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  16. much love to you and your family. i am so deeply sorry for your loss.

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  17. Oh my! I am so sorry to hear this, Alexandra. Please accept my deepest sympathy at this terrible time. My heart is broken for you and your family.

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  18. You have all of my love and concern, for whatever it can do from so far away. You know I know of the depths, and I do not know what pulls us back who manage to maintain. I hold a canyon of love and pain in my soul for the people who could not manage that in this lifetime on this planet, and for the families who love them so much.

    I am so, so sorry. May he be remembered well.

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  19. So hard to,comprehend such a loss. Condolences to you and your family.

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  20. Alexandra, I'm so sorry for your family. Sending prayers for all your healing, if such a healing is even possible...

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  21. I am very, very sorry to read this. Thoughts and prayers with you and your family.

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  22. I wish I knew more to say besides I'm so sad for your loss. My thoughts are with you and your family.

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  23. I'm pausing for you and with you. I am so sorry.

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  24. Thank you all so much. There is so much pain all of this that I don't know where to go with it all. It's unnatural to bury someone who you once held in your lap. THe loss is something so very deep, and I'm sure it's because this isn't how it goes. I don't outlive my beautiful nephew.

    I don't.

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  25. I have no words for you, but this poem has given me some comfort.

    "A light went out on Earth for me
    the day we said goodbye
    And on that day a star was born, the brightest in the sky Reaching through the darkness with
    its rays of purest white
    Lighting up the Heavens as it once
    lit up my life
    With beams of love to heal
    the broken heart you left behind
    Where always in my memory
    your lovely star will shine."

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  26. oh gosh, I am so so sorry for your loss. Thinking, praying for your family.

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  27. oh....hugs....i am so sorry. it is so hard not to get to say goodbye. def prayers for your family.

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  28. Oh my darling heart. I am shaking for you. I am so, so, so sorry.

    Sending you a bucketload of my biggest strength and love and hope. All the nutrients you will need to help get you through this next wicked bit.

    Oh. Oh.

    Xxxxxxxxxx eden

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  29. Oh Alexandra, my heart breaks for you and your family. I hope you can feel all this love and support holding you up during this dark time. So much love - Ash

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  30. I am just incredibly sorry. And realize there are not enough words, no words actually to touch on this loss.

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  31. Thinking of you and your family at this most difficult time. I am very sorry for your loss.

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  32. Oh my dear. Holding you and your precious family in my prayers during this deep sorrow.

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  33. I am so sorry for your incredible loss. Sending love and peace in your direction.

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  34. You know you're in my thoughts and prayers and most always, in my heart. You have an army of support, and while we can't take the confusion the hurt or the pain away, we can all share in your grief and help you to get through. Not get over it, mind you, but get through it.

    XOXO

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    1. Thanks for talking to me so much about this, Abby. xo

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  35. Sending you all my love. I'm so, so sorry. xo

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  36. Holding you and your family close in my heart. And a hug.

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  37. I'm so sorry for your loss.
    I'm sending you love and prayers for you and your family.

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  38. My thoughts are with you and your family.

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  39. I can't even imagine and my heart goes out to your family. Such things cannot be understood. I am so very sorry, friend. May be rest in peace and may you and your family find comfort in the precious memories of him and live so that he can see you all and smile. That is just how I imagine the people I have lost. I want to live a life that demonstrates I know how precious it is. So many hugs.

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  40. Oh no. Your nephew that had leukemia? I am heartbroken for you and your family.

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  41. Sorry to hear that, Empress. Thoughts are with you.

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  42. Oh, dear, sweet lady, I am so aching for you and your family. Please know you are in my thoughts and surrounded with love from all corners of "afar."

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  43. I am so sorry my dear friend. I know your heart is big and tender. I hope it heals and is able to be happy again.

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  44. I am so sorry to hear this. This is completely out of the natural order of things. I have no idea how this feels for you or what you are going through, but just know that my thoughts are with you.

    XXOO

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  45. I am so sorry for your loss. Wishing you peace when it becomes available, and happy memories of your nephew to comfort you when you're ready.

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  46. So sorry to hear of his passing Alex. Thoughts and prayers are being sent your family's way.
    Dana

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  47. Oh, I'm so sorry, Alexandra. I'm sending prayers to you and your family. I hope you can all find peace in your happy memories.

    XOXO

    A.

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    1. Thank you, sweet Anna. I'll be emailing you. xo

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  48. I know all about that tightness in the throat. You are resisting. And of course you would. It isn't right when a child passes away. That's not the way things are supposed to work.

    I'm so sorry to hear about your loss.

    Such grief.

    Such grief.

    We cannot escape it in our lifetimes.

    It finds us.

    So I will wish you peace. And urge you to cry as hard as you can. To yield to the sorrow. To make the tightness go away.

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  49. I'm so sorry for your loss. Sending prayers for your family. xo

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  50. I am so sorry for your loss. I'm not sure there are ever words appropriate, but sending you thoughts, love, and prayers.

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  51. I just saw this Alexandra. I'm so sorry for your pain and that of your family. Sending you peace and love and light.

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    1. Thank you, Katherine. I know you know more than what I've posted here, and thank you.

      xo

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  52. I'm so sorry, beautiful one. Sending you and your family all my love.

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  53. Keeping you, your nephew, and your family in my thoughts today. So incredibly sorry for this especially difficult loss.

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  54. Oh Sugar. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.

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  55. Not right. Not fair. Not meaningful or enlightening. I'm so sorry. Wishing you strength.

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  56. Sending so much love and prayer.

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  57. I'm so sorry for your family's loss. There are no words, just that I am wishing peace for you all.

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  58. Alexandra, I am very sorry. I can't imagine your family's grief, and I am so very, very sad for your sister. God bless you and keep you and comfort you. I will pray.

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  59. Alexandra,

    I am so sorry for the loss of your nephew. I am keeping you, your sister and your entire family in my thoughts and prayers. I am sending you my love.

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  60. I tried to comment 5 times on my phone at the vet's office when I saw this on Twitter. I'm so sorry, Alexandra. Sending love from KC.

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  61. Terrible. My thoughts are with you and your family. Dear God, I'm so very sorry.

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  62. So very, very sorry for your and your family's loss. You will be in my prayers. I too have a nephew, and can only imagine the pain you must feel.

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  63. My heart is breaking for you, my friend. I have no words, wish my arms could reach from here to there to wrap you and provide a sliver of comfort. Sending mountains of love. Holding you in my heart.

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  64. I am so, so sorry. Holding you and your family in the light.

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  65. OH MY GOD. I am so incredibly sorry. Sending white light to you and yours.

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  66. THat's devastating. I am wishing you peace and comfort.

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  67. Shannon Bradley-CollearyTuesday, January 08, 2013

    Hi Alexandra - I am so so sorry for your family's loss. We are sending all of our prayers and love to you.

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  68. I'm so very sorry, my friend. Love & light.

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  69. I am so sorry. My heart is sending love and prayers and comfort. God hold each one of you.

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  70. Oh no. So sad, so wrong, so very sorry...much love...

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    1. Andrea, I wish you were here. Just to listen to me talk about him. I wish you were here. Thank you, friend.

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  71. There is nothing fair about this. I'm so sorry!

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  72. Oh, sweetheart. Dear God. I am so so so sorry. How excruciating. I love you and am praying for your family.

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  73. I'm so very sorry, Alexandra. My deepest condolences to you, your boys, your sister and the rest of the family. No parent (or aunt or uncle or grandparent) should have to face the loss of a child.

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  74. “Gone. The saddest word in the language. In any language.” –Mark Slouka

    Sending prayers from Minnesota this very moment. I am SO sorry for this GREAT loss....

    NOTHING is more difficult than losing a loved one. NOTHING.

    Love Love Love xx

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  75. So very sorry for you and your family. Wishing you hope and healing.

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  76. So sorry for your loss, thinking of you and your family at this sad time. xx

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  77. I am so, so sorry. No family should have to feel that pain. Prayers to you and your family.

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  78. Im so sorry. I lost my brother years ago in a drowning accident and there is no way to prepare for the grief that follows. Holding you and your family in my heart.

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  79. Beautiful words. I am so sorry for your loss, Alexandra.

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  80. I am so very sorry. Prayers and love to your family during this heart-breaking time.

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  81. Alexandra, there are no words. I send you a hug from cross country. You and your family are in my mind and in my heart.

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  82. I am so very sorry, Akexandra... such horrible, sad news. I don't even know the right words to say... Inwokk peat and think of your family during this difficult time. My deepest and most heartfelt condolences. I wish there was something I could do. Love to you.

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  83. I'm so, so sorry. Adding my voice to the chorus of grief and love surrounding you right now, and wishing for some peace for your entire family, when the time is right.

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  84. I'm so very sorry for you and your family. May God hold you very close and give you comfort in such a difficult time. Lots of love and hugs to you...

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  85. It hurts. I know it hurts. We love you. We're here for you. If you need us, please let us know.

    Rachel

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  86. So terrible to read of your family's trauma, what an awful thing to go through...

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  87. My heart aches for you, your sister, your family. I am so very sorry. Keeping you all in my thoughts.

    Lisa

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  88. So sorry, praying for you and your family. May God give you peace.

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  89. Oh my heart, I am praying for you and your sister. I can only imagine the pain that she is feeling. A sudden unexpected loss of a child. I am praying and keeping you in my thoughts. If you need ANYTHING please let me know.I am emailing you my number now.

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  90. My words can never convey the feelings I have for you and your family, Empress. I cannot believe how much sorry some people, families and friends must endure in one lifetime. It's simply not fair, but neither is life. We will walk slowly together again. If you ever need anything, I'm here, not yet far away. Please know I love you all and I care for all of deeply.

    You are so loved, and we are all feeling your loss right now. I pray there is the inner strength that will pull everyone through this.

    Bless you, my friend.

    Em

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  91. Sending you lots of love and prayers to help you and your family heal (as much as one can in these cases). Abrazos.

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  92. I am so saddened and so sorry. I hate that tragedy can rear its head on any given day, and I am praying for your sister and you and your whole family as you walk through this darkness. Please know that so many hearts are beating with yours, and carrying you even though all you can feel is the weight. With so much love, with so much love, xoxo

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  93. Alexandra, I am so so sorry. I am praying for your sister and your family and for you.

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  94. There's a banner hanging on an overpass in my town: No footprint is so tiny as to not leave an imprint on this world. sending you love

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  95. I'm so sorry for your loss. Your family is in my thoughts and prayers. Sending you love.

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  96. I'm adding to the prayers...

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  97. Oh, Alexandra... I just now saw this, and - oof - what a kick to the gut to see that you and your fam are suffering this pain. I'm so very sorry.

    I'm thinking about you and your sister. Sending you all thoughts of strength to keep putting one foot in front of the other.

    Please know we're all reaching out through space to help hold you up.

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  98. You have my love, sweet Alexandra... I am so sorry.

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  99. My thoughts are with you right now. Hold on tight to those you love that are around you.
    Jen

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  100. The abyss, the nightmare, the shattered hearts. I hope--I know--that you and your family are surrounded by people you love right now and lifted by faith. But as powerful as love and faith may be, the pain right now sweeps away everything in its path. I add my voice to the chorus here saying that we grieve with you, and for you.

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  101. I am so sorry for your loss and prayers are with you and your family. I just can't even imagine....

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  102. Thank you so much, to everyone. It is a very tragic time for my family, and we are facing it, day by day. Thank you all so very much.

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  103. Oh Alexandra.I've been on a hiatus and so have only now been reading backwards and catching up. I can't express how sorry I am to hear this and I know there are no words to aleve the pain. My heart and prayers go out to you and the entire family in your grief.

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