I’d stare straight ahead, transfixed, while she pulled my hair through her comb, her stories
taking me someplace else, taking me to her life. Every time, disappearing into the images she created for me.
Her stories never stopped, even as I grew older. I’d come home to
visit from college and sit on the sofa next to her, and she’d begin, "When I was a little girl..." She had such a treasury stored away in her mind, each adventure
told with a detailed magic that to this day, remembering them brings them back to
life, as full of blue skies and green grass as when I first heard them
forty years ago.
Her stories didn't come out of a book, they were from her mouth.
Parenting publications instruct us to read to our children, and I agree 100 percent with this practice, but I want my
children to get lost in my life, as I did in my Abuela’s. I tell my three boys stories about my
growing up, in bright descriptions. I explain about being a teen in the 70's and taking the 10 foot long coiled
up telephone cord, and stretching it into the hall closet so I could have
privacy with my phone calls. I tell them about the three channels, four if you counted public television, that
we had and how you had to stand up and cross the room to
change the station – manually clicking a too-hard-to-turn knob to a new
show.
I describe hot, muggy Milwaukee summers that would make my hair spring like coils around my forehead, of how I'd go to the community pool with my two brothers, crossing the wooden slat bridge; having to hold my eyes straight up and fighting the temptation to look down between the slats or I'd imagine myself falling in the river far below. My
grandmother would give us 35 cents each; a dime for the metal basket to
place our clothes in and 25 cents to each buy a bag of cheese popcorn
for when we’d come out of the pool, famished. One summer, we figured out
that if we all shared a basket, we’d have 20 cents extra and could get
two banana popsicles, split three ways.
I paint a picture for my children, so they see a skinny,
brown-skinned girl with hair thicker than a broom, sitting in between
two brothers on a park bench alongside the chain fence of a pool,
sunburned shoulders in the days before sunscreen, fingertips orange with
cheese dust.
I want my stories to play in their heads forever, exactly as my Abuela’s stories still do for me.
Because it is this vision of a little girl with the flying black
braids, running as if the devil himself is chasing her and scrambling up
a tree with her heart in her throat – that is the picture of my Abuela
that lives in my mind forever.
I reveled in my grandmother's stories, it is with this same love of the oral tradition, that I became a supporter of the not for profit organization,
TheMoth. TheMoth is dedicated to keeping alive and cultivating the art of story telling, by celebrating the story teller, the extraordinary in all our ordinary.
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Please follow TheMoth on Facebook, follow them on twitter, subscribe to their podcasts and listen to TheMoth Radio Hour on your public radio broadcast station, because we've been telling our stories since time began. TheMoth brings these stories together -- from people you'd never dream of hearing about, with stories so fiercely human, you find yourself back to feeling what it's like to sit at someone's knee, hanging on the next word in childlike wonder. Lose yourself in the magic and beauty of sharing our varied lives through laughter, tears, epiphanies, and arrived insight, all while being held spellbound -- in a story. Find out more by clicking on TheMoth through TheMoth.org . True Stories told live.
If there is a Moth StorySLAM anywhere near you, attend. StorySLAMS are open-mic storytelling competitions held weekly in New York City, three times a month in Los Angeles, twice a
month in Chicago, twice a month in Michigan and monthly in Louisville,
Pittsburgh, Boston, Milwaukee, Portland, Seattle, San Francisco, and
Minneapolis/St. Paul. They are open to anyone with a five-minute story
to share on the night’s theme.
Attend, be a part of the storySLAM on stage or in the audience -- either way, you'll leave falling in love with the human race and the beauty of the collective experience with stories, amazing stories, told on stage.
"The Moth is a celebration of both the
raconteur, who breathes fire into true tales of ordinary life, and the
storytelling novice, who has lived through something extraordinary and
yearns to share it. Moth stories dissolve socio-economic barriers, expose
vulnerabilities, and quietly suggest ways to overcome challenges and see
with new eyes."
*The Moth is always looking for stories, call their pitch line -- just like I did -- and tell them your story, because you're the only one that can tell it.
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that is so cool...a great story but the whole experience is cool....we live and grow through our stories...so what an honor to share ours when given the chance....
ReplyDeleteB, the moth has StorySLAMS. If there is one near you,l anyhwere near you, please try to go. The world becomes different to you after that. Thanks so much for your support, B.
DeleteI WISH, so badly, that I was there to see you tell your story. I love you.XOXOXOXO
ReplyDeleteThank you so much Suni and Andrea: I hope you go to a Moth show, storySLAM, and listen on radio, watch on youtube. They restore the love of humanity, with all of our stories. Humans are awesome creatures.
DeleteIt is so incredible that you have fond so many wonderful places to share your beautiful words and stories.
ReplyDeleteI would have loved to have seen it. Beautiful photo of you.
ReplyDeleteThank you chicken, you are so awesome.
DeleteWhat an honor for you! You are definitely honoring your abuela by continuing her story-telling legacy.
ReplyDeleteThank you for sharing her story ... and yours.
So proud to know you and to see you finding more and more places to share your beautiful voice.
ReplyDeletelove this and love you.
ReplyDeleteWhat an honor for you and what an honor for the people who got to hear your beautiful voice and STORY.
XO
Yes. Yes.
ReplyDeleteThose are some of my fondest memories with my grandparents and boy do I wish that I paid more attention to some of their stories...because let's admit...sometimes you trail off...bingo is not exciting...kidding :)
I love the way you write and share her legacy with all of us.
xoxo
omg!!
ReplyDeleteJust reading your words paints a picture I can see, feel, smell, taste.
ReplyDeleteI can only imagine what it would be like to hear this read out loud in your voice.
Jealous i couldn't be in Oklahoma City to hear your words spill over the crowd. congrats to you.
ReplyDeleteI wish I could have heard this, Alexandra! But I love to read about it -- and about the ways your Abuela sparked that desire to listen to and tell stories. Just fabulous!
ReplyDeleteI love this. You have a true gift of story telling. Your Abuela would be so proud.
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