The holidays are a keg of dynamite, aren't they? So much riding on these days, our expectations so high, the media of the world screaming "Make this time be the most important thing of your year!" But what happens, when those that are the biggest thing in our life, aren't there to celebrate with us? Is there any source then, telling us what to do? Seems that's when the barkers disappear.
I'm looking for ideas, things that have worked for you or others, ways that you have found through being baptized by the fire, of making it through the holidays when the ones who mean the holidays to us, are gone.
My post up at Purple Clover today, "The Empty Chairs at The Table."
*Thank you for reading, I've said it before, and I think it more times than you'll ever know, but I am grateful for you.
The year my grandfather passed away, I made quilts for my grandmother, mother, aunt and uncle out of some of his clothes. It kept me busy and I felt close to him, plus I had gifts for people. I guess it felt better to be overwhelmed by the project than the loss for a few moments here and there. Much love to you...
ReplyDeleteMy heart goes out to you and your family as you try to navigate through a difficult holiday season. Our family has had a similar situation the last few years, with passings before the holidays. The way that each of us grieves is more personal than our fingerprints, but for me, honoring and remembering them by sharing stories around the table (particularly the funny ones) is very healing. I know you will find your way through this. I wish you and your family a happy, healthy Thanksgiving.
ReplyDeletehey, you will be ok...it will be hard...the empty chairs at the table are def full of memories...relish in them...tell stories of her to fill that space...love those that are there...
ReplyDeleteEven though the chairs may empty everyone's hearts will be full of the memories of your mom and nephew. It won't be the same - it can't - but enjoying the holidays doesn't mean you miss them an iota less.
ReplyDeleteI read about your trip to buy presents for needy children on behalf of your dear mother and my heart soared. Please know that these good works do not go unnoticed, that you're an inspiration far beyond your three sweet boys.
ReplyDeleteI hope the joy you spread in the midst of sorry comes back tenfold to you and the ones you love during this time of healing. And I hope you'll be surrounded by warm memories instead of empty spaces - although surely both will battle within you for their places.
And be assured that I'm thinking of you and your family, wishing peace for you all. Soon.
I agree with DG, she put it beautifully. Have a Blessed Thanksgiving. May sweet memories fill those empty spaces.
ReplyDeleteI've been thinking a lot about you this week and imagine this time of year will be difficult on you. I just want you to know that I'm thinking of you and sending so many good thoughts and well-wishes your way. *HUGS* *HUGS* *HUGS*, Alexandra.
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